Whoever said your first pregnancy was the hardest, well, they were lying. To me at least.
Here I am, staring down the barrel of my second birthing experience and even though my son’s birth went swimmingly (I mean textbook great, thank God!), I can’t help but wonder how this one will turn out.
You see, for me the second pregnancy has been hard. From the get go I’ve needed medical support to sustain both me and this little one. I’ve faced intervention for low progesterone levels, hyperemesis, SPD, hypoglycemia, and a whole array of milder but really challenging pregnancy symptoms that never even crossed my new-mom-glowing mind with my first.
“So if this pregnancy has been so much harder on my body (chasing a rambunctious toddler around in circles doesn’t make it much easier of course), doesn’t it stand to reason that this birth might be more physically trying too?”
Not to mention I got my first dreaded stretch mark the other day, something I had (rather smugly) escaped up until this point. The disappointment was massive – I’m just being honest here.
So if this pregnancy has been so much harder on my body (chasing a rambunctious toddler around in circles doesn’t make it much easier of course), doesn’t it stand to reason that this birth might be more physically trying too?
Well, that’s what I’m kinda worried about.
Of course I’m preparing myself mentally and physically as best as I can, just like I did for my first labor; meditation, exercising daily, watching my weight gain etc. But is it going to be enough to get the second natural, manageable birth that I so badly want?
“Many people have assured me that subsequent births are usually easier in terms of time length, if not a little more painful due to their efficiency. But no one has really mentioned to me about recovery after the ‘trauma’ of a second birth.”
Only time will tell.
I’m still putting most of my eggs in the ‘mind over matter’ basket here a little bit. My biggest concern to date has been that my labor will be so super charged and fast moving that I’ll end up on the news for delivering my second son on the side of the interstate (erm, no thanks). Now I wonder if it’s foolhardy to worry about the vaguest of possibilities (I’m prepping to try to avoid that whole scenario by the way. Super eek!), and not about the more relevant health concerns that any woman in labor could so easily find herself facing.
Many people have assured me that subsequent births are usually easier in terms of time length, if not a little more painful due to their efficiency. But no one has really mentioned to me about recovery after the ‘trauma’ of a second birth. Part of me definitely ponders whether or not all those ‘parts’ that sprung back and healed at an amazing rate last time, will be as apt to do so 2 years down the line and one too many strains and stretches later.
I don’t have a clue because every body copes differently, doesn’t it? And therein lies the fun.
So here’s to hoping that I still have what it takes. That the health challenges of my second pregnancy will finally abandon me when push comes to shove (ahem). That my body will remember how to heal itself in ways I can hardly fathom.
It’s time to relax and trust I suppose.
Wish me luck y’all.
Do you have any insights or advice for a second time mom and birther? Share away below and help a mama out!